In today’s world, communication is key. Whether we’re talking to a friend, sharing an opinion on social media, or making a presentation at work, the way we communicate shapes how others perceive us. But have you ever noticed that some statements just don’t land well? They feel too absolute, too sweeping, and in the end, they can hurt the very message we’re trying to share. One example of this is a recent post I came across that said:
“It’s impossible for Christians to vote for Democrats.”
Now, regardless of your political stance, the issue with that statement is the absolute nature of it. It leaves no room for dialogue, understanding, or even a simple exchange of ideas. In reality, I know many Christians who have voted Democrat, just as I know others who voted Republican or took a different approach altogether. When we speak in such sweeping absolutes, we risk making ourselves sound less credible because those types of statements often don’t ring true for everyone.
Why Absolutes Don’t Help Us Communicate Well
The problem with communicating in absolutes is that we close the door to deeper conversation. We create an environment where people feel forced to agree with us or reject us completely. And, as much as we may think our statements are bold or firm, they can often leave people feeling misunderstood or even dismissed.
We all know that the world isn’t black and white. The complexity of life, relationships, and even our own beliefs means that we have to communicate with nuance and care. When we fail to moderate our words, especially when discussing something as personal as faith or politics, we make it harder for others to listen to us with an open heart.
The Alternative: Thoughtful Communication
What’s the solution to this problem? The key is moderation. When we make statements, we need to ask ourselves, Is this an absolute? If we find ourselves leaning toward an all-or-nothing view, it’s time to pause and consider a more balanced, thoughtful approach. Instead of saying, ‘It’s impossible for Christians to vote for Democrats,’ we might say, ‘I personally have a hard time supporting that party, but I respect that others may have a different perspective based on their own values.’ By doing this, we leave room for healthy dialogue and make it easier for others to connect with us, even if they disagree.
The Bible offers wisdom on the power of words and the way we speak to others. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” This verse highlights the importance of our tone and approach in communication. When we speak with gentleness, humility, and care, we not only keep the conversation going, but we also create an environment of respect. And in a world that often feels divided, that’s a powerful thing.
Building Bridges, Not Walls
As Christians, we are called to communicate in a way that reflects the love and understanding of Christ. By being mindful of how we speak, we can build bridges instead of walls. The goal isn’t to convince others that we are right, but to communicate in a way that fosters connection and understanding, even amidst disagreement. In the end, we want our words to point others toward truth, while also showing them grace.
So, how can we be better communicators today? Let’s focus on being thoughtful, considerate, and humble in the way we express our beliefs. Let’s moderate our language and make room for respectful conversations, even when we disagree. By doing so, we honor God and encourage unity in a divided world.
As you go about your day, remember the words of Proverbs 15:1. Let’s use our words to turn away anger, not stir it up. Let’s communicate with gentleness, kindness, and truth.
Final Thoughts:
We can all be better communicators, but it requires a willingness to reflect on our words and the impact they have on others. By speaking thoughtfully and moderating our language, we can create conversations that lead to greater understanding and deeper relationships—both with others and with God.
I invite you to share your thoughts.
Sincerely,
Jarissa
